Category Archives: 3L

Being on the Other Side of the Table

Reputation

Does anyone else Google “how to answer interview questions?” Or “how to make a good first impression in an interview?” I have. Even when I am not interviewing for a job. I do this because I have often times been on the other side of the table . . .  the interviewer. I want to know which candidates are giving canned responses and what the internet is telling people will “land you the job of your dreams.”

In my past position, I interviewed numerous candidates to fill the vacancies for staff that held support functions in our office. Now, as an attorney, I have been asked to continue my role as a panel interviewer for incoming attorneys. I was blown away when they asked me to stay on in that role and I have enjoyed every minute of it.

Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting on an interview panel at my law school. During the part of the interview when the interviewer asks “so, do you have any questions for me?,” the last candidate of the day turned to me and asked:

I heard you are an alum of this law school. Can you tell me the one thing that you learned in law school that makes you successful in your job?

Without even thinking about it, I responded “protect your reputation, because you never know who will be sitting on the other side of the table.”

It’s more true than I think some new attorneys will ever have the ability to understand. I started to appreciate that fact more when I started interviewing other attorneys that I either knew of or heard of during law school.

I explained to the candidate that your reputation in the legal community starts in law school because you are sitting next to your future colleagues. People who you will work with for the rest of your career. How they know you in law school will be how they perceive you for the rest of the time you interact with them during your legal career.

I can think of two attorneys that I currently work  with as opposing counsel. I know how they played fast and loose in law school and I know they are probably flying by the seat of their pants in the cases we have together.  I can think of another currently unemployed attorney who reached out to me for a referral for a position in my office. I was very direct and explained to them that I did not know anything about their work ethic as they were rarely in class and failed to show up to our final group presentation. And for those reasons, I was not comfortable in making the referral. They probably cussed me out, deleted my email, and moved on to find the next person they could suck a referral out of. All I know is that I will never refer someone for a job in my office that I cannot personally see myself working alongside of.

So, to all of you thinking about going to law school, starting your 1L year, or even entering your 2L year, protect your reputation because you never know who will be across from you at that table when it comes time to interview for that job you really want.

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And There It Was…

… my name!

Thursday while at work I was a big ball of stress. The impending release of the bar pass names was obviously weighing on me. Getting no work done, my boss suggested I take a half day and enjoy some time with my family and relax on Friday while I waited for the bar results to be posted.

I went home, napped, made dinner, played with Little Bit and tried (unsuccessfully) to keep the thought of the results being posted out of my head. Friday was not much better. I did menial things around the house and played and napped some more. From 3:00-4:00 the hour just stalled. It was as if time stood still. LONGEST. HOUR. OF. MY. LIFE.

But then there we were. Refreshing the page where the results were to be posted. Little Bit sitting on the couch in the office with Alex and Aldo trying to weasel their way up to the couch as well. Mr. Mister was in control of the mouse-clicking, refreshing  every second and I stood behind him, knees shaking, biting my nails, waiting for the link to appear. Mr. Mister was refreshing the screen so quickly he missed it but I saw the blue hyperlink appear. I screamed “there is it! Stop! Stop! Stop! Click here.” And I pointed out to him what he had overlooked.

The attachment opened and my heart quickened. My knees started to get a little weak and suddenly the sound of Little Bit’s animal noise toys was muted from my ears and all I heard was my own pounding heartbeat. And there it was, my name.

I passed the state bar exam! I was ecstatic! Elated! Happy! I jumped up and down and hugged my husband and cried knowing that the stress of law school was behind me and I only had the joy of starting a new career in front of me.

For those starting bar prep for the July bar, put in the study time. It doesn’t have to be excessive, but it should be quality. I hope you get the same excitement I did when you see your name on a pass list.

Pass

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Free Time

Free Time

Eight weeks have passed since I took the bar exam. As I mentioned before, I had a job to go back to. Some of the test takers had no job to go to and thus were stuck trying to determine how to kill time during the day. My biggest problem was what I would do to fill my evening hours.

For the past three years my evenings were filled with reading or studying. The past year added my maternal responsibilities to that list as well. Needless to say, the days were packed full of things I needed to do and not the things I wanted to do. With most of that behind me now (I guess my maternal responsibilities will never end, so I am told) people ask what I do with all of my “free time.” I found it very comical that compared to law school, having a husband, a child, and a full-time job equaled “free time.” But hey, I’ll take it. My evenings and weekends are mine again and here is how I have been filling my free time:

Reading for my own entertainment- There were so many books piling up on my night table and Kindle that I never had time to read while in law school. I have tackled a book a week and IT. FEELS. GREAT! There were some that became outdated such as What to Expect During Your Child’s First Year. Part of me is glad I missed the opportunity to read that one. Something tells me that if I were forewarned about some of the things Little Bit would surprise us with, I may have enrolled back in school for another degree to avoid them.
Reconnected with family and friends- I didn’t realize how much I missed my friends and family. All of them were very understanding of my absence from functions. But once I started attending more gatherings, I realized I missed the genuine laughter that I experience when I am with them. Add to that I get to see Little Bit play with her cousins and the children of some of my dear friends. I am glad I don’t have to miss that anymore.

Exercise! – Before law school started I challenged myself to run two half-marathons. Done! It was the best feeling completing those. I vowed that I would continue to run during law school as an outlet for all of the stress I would feel. Although I did well at first, as I took more classes, engaged in more associations, and took on more projects at work, something had to give. Unfortunately it was my exercise. Although I didn’t pack on much weight from the dreaded vending machines, I was not able to get right back to a good exercise routine after I gave birth nor after graduating since I had to go right into bar prep. As soon as I had a couple weeks to relax and de-stress from the huge accomplishment I had just achieved I got right back into the gym. I must say, I think cycling may be my new passion.

Job hunting- I have not hit this with the full force that others may have since I currently have a job in the legal field that I could obtain an attorney position if worse comes to worse. However, as bar results get closer I have started brushing up my resume, researching firms in the field I want to work, and have had the opportunity to take three meetings with different firms. But with no other extraordinary worries such as how I am going to pay my student loans or if I will have a job after all is said and done, job hunting has been a pretty stress free process so far. Hopefully my bar results prove favorable and I can ramp up on making the connections in the firms I want to be in.

Traveling- We missed out on so many vacation opportunities due to school and having a little one at home. We use to take annual vacations and some mini-vacations throughout the year. During law school, we only got one big trip to D.C. and New York in. Now that I have “free time,” we have a few trips planned and it was so nice not having to try to fit those in between school breaks, work requirements, and our parental responsibilities. Up next, California, Hawaii, Mexico, and a snow boarding trip of some sort.

Relaxing!- If nothing else, I like being able to jut relax with my little family on the weekends. Mr. Mister is stoked that he has his weekends free to make plans without having to arrange for a babysitter. I’m stoked that it’s currently patio weather were I live and I can enjoy a nice glass of Malbec sitting on our outdoor couch with no school books or study materials in front of me.

It’s the little things.

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(Kinda) Unemployed

Lazy

Yesterday was the beginning of my first day without working since I was 16 years old! Of course I took off three months for maternity leave, but that was in the normal course of business. Now, I am taking off two and a half months to study full time for the bar. This week is my buffer week. I had one final yesterday and bar prep starts next Monday. So… here I am on a Tuesday morning, with nothing to do, bored already. I must say that yesterday was pretty fabulous. Mr. Mister woke up with Little Bit, fed her breakfast, cleaned all the dishes, and prepped Little Bit’s lunch for the babysitter while I slept in until 8:45 for the first time in over a year. IT. WAS. GLORIOUS. But of course, I can’t make that a habit.

I was already given a time table of pre-bar prep stuff that I need to get done before next Monday. Yesterday’s and today’s lists are completed and I am contemplating starting on tomorrow’s list. But I really want to call into work and see how everything is going. I also want to take a nap while Little Bit is napping. However, I should probably get out of my pi’s and do something productive. Ah, the struggle is real right now. I guess I better enjoy these lazy days before my life gets crazy-hectic again.

Maybe I should catch up on my ‘sodes of How To Get Away With Murder! Does anyone else think this is the most cheesy, yet fabulous, show?

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It’s Over!

Applause

What can I say? Surreal? Like I am in a dream? Like this isn’t happening?

TODAY WAS THE LAST DAY OF MY LAW SCHOOL CAREER!

I am feeling all sorts of emotions right now. I know I have a long road ahead of me with the bar and finding a job, but for right now, I AM ON CLOUD NINE!

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

During this last semester of law school I have learned that I am a productive procrastinator. I’ll have bunch of chapters throughout a stack of books to read before the weekend ends and I will come up with a list a mile long of things that ABSOLUTELY need to get done before I start in on that homework.

This weekend that list included:

  •             Sorting through the lone sock pile to find the matches.
  •             Ridding Little Bit’s closet of clothes that no longer fit her.
  •             That resulted in me funneling more clothes into her closet that she can grow into.
  •             Reminiscing about the time when Little Bit was able to fit in those smaller clothes.
  •             Cleaning every single piece of bedding in my home.
  •             Wiping down all of the kitchen cabinets.
  •             Wiping down all of Little Bit’s toys.
  •             Doing 6 loads of laundry . . . which resulted in me having to hang and fold 6 loads of laundry.

On a happy note, my house is always fresh and clean come Monday morning. Ready for the neglect it will suffer the rest of the week.

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This Isn’t Underwater Basket Weaving

Basket

If there is one thing I was told prior to entering law school that resonated more than all the other advice was to forget everything you think you know about the law. That was spot on! Seriously, forgot everything you have ever seen on Law & Order. Disregard all of the news coverage of high profile cases.

When you want to show boat on your first day of class using an episode of The Good Wife as your reference, think again. I can’t tell you how many times a former police officer, or current paralegal, or even a law librarian turned law student have dug themselves into a hole by opening their mouths and starting with “well, I know this is X because I saw it on T.V.” Bad move! You will be shut down so quickly you may never want to speak again.

Law school courses are not easy, pass-fail classes like underwater basket weaving. This is serious stuff full of substance and nuances. So until you have done the reading and can apply what you have read to the scenarios the professor provides you, don’t open your mouth. TRUST ME!

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

Texting while in class. In law school. TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE! First, you are depriving yourself of a valuable education that you are spending tens of thousands of dollars on. Second, you are being totally disrespectful. Not only are you being disrespectful to the professor who is providing a lecture they have spent time preparing for you to learn from, you are being disrespectful to your classmates who you are distracting from the lecture. You essentially are stealing their learning opportunity.

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And So It Begins

The walls have begun to close in. I recently opened up the BarBri Early Start Bar Review Course Schedule. ARE. YOU. KIDDING. ME?! How is it a slow-paced primer when you are paced to do 4-6 hours of bar prep a day while you are still in classes?! Oh my!

Not only that, I recently took the MPRE. If that test is allegedly easier than the bar then I may have a serious problem. You better believe I took the whole two hours. Even then, I was still second guessing some of my answers. Ugh, I guess the bright side is I can take it again. I should have listened to the attorney who said they though it was tougher than the bar. That fourth practice test I decided against seemed like a good idea after walking out of that auditorium.

Even more fun are the new training courses I have taken on at the office. Two a week for the month of November ON TOP OF the training of my own staff to cover my duties when I take my leave of absence for bar prep. Ugh. I hate to complain because this is what I signed up for.

And so it begins…the slew of lists and schedules to make sure all of my obligations are being met and I am making the most of my time. As an example, I am typing this while I soak in a hot bath, while I listen to state required videos on the differences of our state’s laws, while I wait for my sheets to finish in my dryer so I can make my bed and hit the hay.

I just keep telling myself “this will all be worth it!”

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

Frazzled:

fraz·zle

informal
verb
adjective: frazzled; past participle: frazzled; past tense: frazzled
  1. cause to feel completely exhausted; wear out.

    I never thought I would use this word to describe myself. I have always prided myself on being organized, timely, and efficient. None of those words describe me these days. MPRE, last day of law school, finals, bar prep and then the bar are all approaching at a pace I am not able to keep up with.

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