Category Archives: Law school

And So It Begins

The walls have begun to close in. I recently opened up the BarBri Early Start Bar Review Course Schedule. ARE. YOU. KIDDING. ME?! How is it a slow-paced primer when you are paced to do 4-6 hours of bar prep a day while you are still in classes?! Oh my!

Not only that, I recently took the MPRE. If that test is allegedly easier than the bar then I may have a serious problem. You better believe I took the whole two hours. Even then, I was still second guessing some of my answers. Ugh, I guess the bright side is I can take it again. I should have listened to the attorney who said they though it was tougher than the bar. That fourth practice test I decided against seemed like a good idea after walking out of that auditorium.

Even more fun are the new training courses I have taken on at the office. Two a week for the month of November ON TOP OF the training of my own staff to cover my duties when I take my leave of absence for bar prep. Ugh. I hate to complain because this is what I signed up for.

And so it begins…the slew of lists and schedules to make sure all of my obligations are being met and I am making the most of my time. As an example, I am typing this while I soak in a hot bath, while I listen to state required videos on the differences of our state’s laws, while I wait for my sheets to finish in my dryer so I can make my bed and hit the hay.

I just keep telling myself “this will all be worth it!”

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

Frazzled:

fraz·zle

informal
verb
adjective: frazzled; past participle: frazzled; past tense: frazzled
  1. cause to feel completely exhausted; wear out.

    I never thought I would use this word to describe myself. I have always prided myself on being organized, timely, and efficient. None of those words describe me these days. MPRE, last day of law school, finals, bar prep and then the bar are all approaching at a pace I am not able to keep up with.

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The Battle to Breastfeed

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Let me start by saying that the choice to breastfeed your child is a decision that is personal to each mother and their individual circumstances. For me, I wanted to exclusively breastfeed Little Bit for the first year of her life (give or take). However, as with everything else, I had to really balance how important that was to me against all of the other responsibilities in my life that required my time and attention. After much research on the benefits of breastfeeding, conversations with other mothers, and some inquiry of my doctor, we decided that breastfeeding was the route for us. This journey is not without struggle.

First, I took it day by day… literally. Breastfeeding was such a struggle in the beginning that I told myself each day just to push through until the next day and see how you feel. Well, 10 months later, here we are. But along those tens months, there were some things that people had told me that continued to torment me.

 It Comes Naturally-FALSE!

When mothers talked about breastfeeding their child, I mostly heard of all the benefits it would provide to my child. Not once did I hear of the difficulty that came along with it. I had this fairy-tale idea that my child would immediately know what to do the first time I put her to my breast. NOT. THE. CASE. It takes work in the beginning.

In the hospital, it took a good three tries for Little Bit to latch. The nurses had to help me the first few times. But after a while, I felt like we had the hang of it and we were released from the hospital into the scariness of parenthood.

Our “great latch” fell apart the minute we tried to feed at home. I realize now it was the amount of stress and sleeplessness that I was experiencing that led to our slight detour on our breastfeeding journey. Luckily, the hospital had sent me home with a goodie bag that included a list of ten or so lactation consultants (it’s as if they knew!). You bet your aunt fanny I was on the phone so quick and it was the best $75 I had ever spent for an hours worth of work.

She explained that breastfeeding, although natural, is very difficult in the beginning. She watched me hold Little Bit to see how I positioned her. She looked at how Little Bit latched and even weighed her after the feeding to assure me that I was in fact producing enough milk for my child.

It still didn’t feel natural, but over time, it became easier to manage.

Pumping is Easy-FALSE!

Ugh! I can’t wait to jump kick my pumps out of my home and office. That’s right. You heard me. Pumps! PLURAL! I own two pumps.

In this craziness that I call my life, Mr. Mister and I decided that it would be advantageous to keep a pump at home for the late night/early morning/weekend pumps and one at the office for my workday pumps. With all of the crap I carry around for work and school, I didn’t want to be bogged down with another bag. I must say, it has been a great stress reliever to not have to truck an extra bag with a pump around. Every Monday, I just walk in with a bag of ten clean bottles, put them in my office cabinet my husband got for me, and I only worry about carrying out a discreet bottle bag at the end of each day. That’s the easy part. The hard part was figuring out how to use your pump to your body’s potential.

Pumps come in all different shapes, sizes, grades, colors, personalities (only slightly kidding). With all of the available brands, you have to determine which will be right for you. Do your research. There are so many blogs and resources on line that you can hear people raving about the pump they use or ranting about how another pump has failed them. But keep in mind, what works for one body, may not work for another.

Another thing to keep in mind is cost. Most insurance companies will cover the cost of a breast pump. Just call and ask and they can inform you of all the details. The bad part about this is you get what they got. You can’t choose the latest model or best quality. However, my own insurance company provided me with a top quality Ameda pump. A girlfriend of mine told me her insurance provided her with a Medela. So, I think insurance companies want to get it right the first time in order not to hinder your pumping and for you to be successful. One note here, the company that sent me mine had to replace it when the motor went out. It was no big deal. I call, they confirmed the model, my address, and had the new one sent out overnight. I am not sure how easy it would be to try to return or exchange a pump at a retail store.

After you have the right pump for you, you need to figure out a schedule that works for your daily responsibilities and the milk intake of your child. This is the hard part. I started by pumping every two hours to create my supply and to store some for when I returned to work. Eleven months later I am down to pumping twice a day. As Little Bit has gotten older she has dropped feedings and not taken as much milk. Another thing I noticed is that when I am stressed out or sleep deprived (which is usually every day) my milk supply is totally affected. At times like those, there is not much you can do when you are carrying such a busy schedule. You just press on and move past it. Never fear supplementing.

It’s Quicker than Making a Formula Bottle- FALSE!

In the middle of the night when you are ripped from your sleep at the sound of a crying baby you don’t really have all of your faculties yet. It’s super easy to lay the child in bed next to you and nurse as opposed to fumbling your way through the dark, with a crying child, to make a bottle, heat the bottle, stumble your way back to the chair and finally feed your child. A 30 minute bottle process can be a 15 minute nursing session that only requires you to relocate your child next to you.

Most Women Fail as a Milk Supplier-FALSE!

Studies have shown that providing breast milk to your child for a even just a few days can be beneficial to your child. The colostrum itself has so many health benefits and can protect your child from infection and illnesses you, as the mother, has been exposed to. For some women, that is all that they can provide for their child. This is not failing as a mother. It’s physiology. As much as I wanted to nurse my child through to her first year, I don’t think we will make it. At 10 months, I started supplementing with formula because my body could no longer keep up. I haven’t failed as a milk supplier, I have given my baby the best that I could and that my body would allow. We are both happy because of it.

Whatever route you decide to take with your child, definitely consider what your schedule will permit and how realistic your goals are. I set out with the goal of a week. Then a month. Then three months. Every time I would reach a goal, I would feel so much more motivated to set another goal. Set yourself up for success and gauge your success by your own standards when it comes to breastfeeding.

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

Senioritis is applicable to law school. I know. I am suffering from it.

Remember those construction paper chains you made in grade school to countdown the days until Christmas? Yeah? I made one counting down the days to my final day of law school. School colors and all! Don’t judge!

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How I Decided to Have a Baby While in Law School

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I cannot count the number of times that when people found out I got pregnant on purpose during law school, the look on their face was one of doubt as to my choice. A gabillion! I guess I see their concern. Law school is a stressful time. Pregnancy is a stressful time. Combine both of those and you have a catastrophe waiting to happen.

Here is the thought process we went through to decide it was the right time for us to have a baby:

Timing

I kept saying we will have a baby when the time is “right.” What does that even mean? I have no clue what I meant. I think it was my way of stalling the process. Mr. Mister finally noticed that we will always find a reason as to why it was the wrong time. So I navigated my way through my first year and I established a good study routine. When we decided a baby would fit into our lives between semesters of my 2L year, I checked the week all of my finals would fall on, tracked back to an ovulation calculator (TMI? Sorry!), and decided we would have a two-month window with which we could conceive and have a safe buffer to deliver during my break between semesters. Once we had the date nailed down and finalized, it all became VERY real.

Finances

Law school is not cheap! Also, babies are not cheap! Combine those with a house payment, a car payment, utilities, etc. and you have a big ol’ debt sheet racking up. Mr. Mister and I sat down and seriously looked at our finances. We cut out the luxuries (who has time to watch TV anyway?), sold an extra vehicle we had, finished up all of the big “to-do” projects around the house, and made sure we had some savings stashed away in the event of an emergency. Knowing that we were being fiscally responsible helped eliminate a lot of the stress of simultaneous school and pregnancy.

Research

Ah, this is where my love for blogs began. I spent countless late night hours reading blogs. I searched things like: pregnant during law school; mothers in law school; effects of stress on a fetus J. I read how little amount of sleep I could get before it would affect a fetus. I read about other mother’s journey through law school while being pregnant or raising a child. I also talked to my doctor about risks and precautions I needed to take and talked to other mom friends to see just what this whole mothering thing was all about.

Support

I am not one to brag, but Mr. Mister is pretty fantastic! His support warrants its own blog post soon. I cannot express how motivational he was during my pregnancy. He was also a worrier; I always said he worried enough for all three of us. He’d make sure our fridge was stocked with yummy and healthy snacks. He would make sure I was taking vitamins, getting enough sleep (well enough relative to being a law school student and full time employee), and always made sure to call and check on me. The best thing he did was tell me when I’d had enough for the day and make sure I had actual “me” time. That may have resulted in one too many naps.

For those of you women wondering if it is a good idea to have a baby while in law school, I say it’s right if YOU feel its right. You know what you are capable of. You know how you handle stress, pressure, and criticism. You know how you are at prioritizing and time management. Take a while to sit down an analyze the situation you will be entering into and decided whether having a baby while in law school is right for you.

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This is Only a Means to an End . . . Kinda

     Why are we all going to law school? For most, it is so we can take the bar and become licensed to practice law. In order to take the bar you need to graduate from law school (with few exceptions). In order to alleviate a little bit of the stress and anxiety you may be feeling, here is a little secret: the bar doesn’t care that you got all A’s. To that same end, the bar doesn’t care that you got all C’s.

     I remember after my first semester grades came out I heard students saying “C’s equal degrees.” And that was the mantra they have maintained throughout their law school career. Those students chose to do the bare-bones work that was required, put in the amount of effort they felt was sufficient to get a passing grade and they were fine with that. However, these were also the same people who seemed a little less stressed because they utilized their free time to go out with friends, spend time with their families, and enjoy their time leisurely as opposed to being locked away in a library reading supplements and going through practice question. These people are still going to walk out of the law school with the same degree as all those people who chose to be disciplined enough to read the supplements, meet with professors to review concepts that they don’t understand and who took the extra time to run through some practice questions and ace their exams.

     When I say law school is only a means to an end, you should take that with a grain of salt. Although you ultimately are enrolled to obtain a degree to take the bar, there are some VERY good reasons why you should strive to obtain good grades to get that degree.

     Here are some reasons why I did not subscribe to the mantra that “C’s equal degrees.”

MONEY

      Need I say more?! If I maintained a 3.0 average, my generous scholarship would be renewed and possibly increased! Not to mention, for those who plan on getting a big law firm job after graduation, you may want to assure you can put a good GPA and class rank on a revenue.

RECOGNITION

     Whoo-wee, recognition is nice. Even if it is just from my husband telling my I did a great job or my school noting my academic achievements in the newsletter or various monitors around the school. Furthermore, potential employers may recognize one candidate’s higher GPA over the next candidate.

SATISFACTION

     Don’t you feel better at the end of the day knowing you worked hard for that degree? That you didn’t take the easy way out? That you set goal and gave it everything you had to achieve it? I know I do. I get satisfaction knowing I earned by grade.

 

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Tuesday’s Tangent

TANGENT TUESDAY

            Ah! It’s finally hit me! I am entering my last semester of law school and I still have no idea what I want to do after graduation! Of course, I need a job, but where? How? Luckily, it’s not just me panicking about this. Unfortunately, it’s not just me panicking about this. That means I have that many other qualified professionals to compete against in the job market.

            Here’s something saving my sanity – I know what I DO NOT want to do. That has helped me narrow down my options. I know I don’t want to practice family law, criminal law, or insurance defense. I know I will not be qualified to practice copyright or trademark law. I am in the fortunate position to currently work in the government sector and will have my job waiting for me after the bar. That means I can take my time (kinda) looking for the type of job that I feel will keep my interest and suit my family scheduling needs.

            If a grade in a particular subject is any indication of what I would do well at in practice I think I would be good at business formation. I have always had a love for transactional practice. I like business formation because it is very cut and dry and governed by statute.

            So……. that’s my current situation.

 

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Pardon the Radio Silence….

Keep Calm

It’s (summer) finals week!

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A Part-Time Schedule With a Full Time Gig

As I mentioned before, I decided to attend a law school that, in addition to the traditional schedule, offered a non-traditional schedule for those students who wanted to continue to work during the semester or who had other obligations during the day that prevented them from attending classes full-time during the day. ABA rules require that a student attending law school on a full-time basis work no more than 20 hours per week during the semester. However, on a part-time schedule that ABA rule does not apply. At my school, full time is considered 13 credit hours and above (4-6 classes) and part-time was considered between 9-12 credit hours; the equivalent of 3-4 classes.

If you take the traditional route you are slated to graduate in 3 years. The non-traditional flex schedule extends the graduation date by a year (4 years total). With that extra year comes the added expense of an additional year of living expenses, book costs, school fees, and tuition. Although tuition is slightly cheaper on the part-time schedule, it still adds on an additional few thousands of dollars a year for those who choose to attend part-time.

I decided to take the part-time route for many reasons. Money was a big concern and I also carried the health insurance for my husband and I. However, one of the most appealing aspects to keeping my job and going to school was that the school I wanted to attend had a campus a block away from my work. This afforded me the added opportunity of attending student functions during the day, an easier way of meeting on campus with professors and employers, and if there was ever anything I needed to get done during the day I could just walk across the street on my lunch hour. Win-win!

One thing that I would like to stress about taking the part-time route is that IT IS NOT THE EASY ROUTE! Professor do not “take it easier on you,” you aren’t assigned less readings, and you don’t have more time to do the work since you are taking less classes. On the contrary, you are stretched thin trying to juggle work and law school; the readings, assignments, networking, student functions, to say the least, are all inevitable in law school. Try getting all that done after work and on weekends and tell me that it’s easier than solely focusing on all those aspects of law school. IT’S NOT EASY! It damn near killed me a few times. But, the more work I put into it going in, the easier it got. So, although it was hell in the beginning, it gets easier. I think this is true regardless of whether you attend full-time or part-time.

My first year schedule looked a little something like this:

6:00 a.m.- Wake up and get ready

6:30 a.m. – Head out the door and off to work

6:45 a.m. – Pick up coffee and a bagel on the way because I most likely failed to pack my breakfast and lunch the night before

7:00 a.m.- Arrive at work and get crackin’ on emails and voicemails that I missed the day before and make a to-do list (have I mentioned that I love lists?!)

11:00 a.m.- Call in a lunch order because I failed to seize the opportunity to wake up early enough to pack a lunch and I need to save as much of my lunch hour to review my notes for that night’s class
(Note: This is a good tip! Spend at least 10 minute before each class reviewing the notes you have made regarding the readings assigned for that class.)

11:15- 12:15- Lunch and studying

5:00 p.m.- Clock out and head over to school

5:10 p.m.- Grab a coffee and finish reviewing notes or get a head start on another class’s readings

6:00 p.m.- 7:30 p.m. – Class #1 and then grab a quick snack from the vending machine (ugh,the evil vending machines of law school!)

7:45-9:15 p.m.- Class #2

9:20 p.m. – Whenever I have to start re-reading what I have just read in order to retain the information- head home and get to bed. Sometimes this is 10:30 p.m. and other times I last until as late as midnight.

        Wake-up and do it all over again….at least until Friday when I didn’t have classes. Friday night was a date night with my husband and the weekends were spent tucked away completing the readings for the following week. I, personally, felt more prepared having all of the readings done for the week finished on the weekends. It allowed me to feel more prepared for class discussions, to clean up my case briefs, and to fill out my outline where I felt I needed clarification on some issues. However, I had friends who would read the cases right before class and not make any notes and they were just as successful. Sometimes I made my weekend readings a little more interesting…to each their own.

Weekend reading

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To Attend or Not To Attend? That is the Question!

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When I first decided to enter law school I read A LOT of blogs to see what others had to say about their law school experience. There were a range of attitudes about the decision to go. Some said “Go! It will be the best years of your life!” While others said “Don’t waste your money!” I was torn. But, as I mentioned before, my husband and I are planners. We discussed best-case scenarios and worst-case scenarios of me attending law school. In looking at our options I noticed that our concerns fell into four main categories: time, support, finances, and motivation. In my personal opinion these are some of the most important factors one should consider when deciding whether or not law school is right for them.

1.TIME

Law school is a time suck! Period! Not only are you slow going at first, you then become bombarded with assignments. Before you know it it’s the end of the semester and you haven’t finished your outline. Time flies when you need more of it.

If there is one thing you need to assess in your life before going to law school its “do I have the time?” For us, it wasn’t too difficult to get beyond the fact that we would be losing a majority of our time together. My husband decided to work on our house and see more of his friends. But you also have to consider the other things you will be missing out on. You won’t always have time to go the movies, or a birthday party, or girl’s night out. There will be times when the BBQ’s are tempting but that 80-page reading assignment looms over you.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t make time for yourself and go out and enjoy the things that will help you keep your sanity. But just realize that your first year requires more than just reading assignments. You are learning a whole new way of reading, of digesting information, and of retaining information. You are also learning a new way to think, to write, and to speak about your thoughts and opinions. That all takes time.

The silver lining in all of this is that if you buckle down and get your study habits established early on, your second and third year ease up so much that you look back at your first year and wondered why you were ever that worried?

In sum, make time for school, homework, a little “together time,” and don’t forget to factor in sleeping ; )

 2. SUPPORT

During my 1L orientation our student board had some 2L and 3L part-time evening law students come in and talk “real” to us about what law school is really like. I won’t lie…I was scared shitless! The one thing that has always stuck with me was when one of the students said “law school leads to divorce.” Boom! He dropped that bomb on us! He explained his personal life experiences and how the time commitment to law school made his wife very unhappy and they divorced. Essentially, he said that she wasn’t supportive of him. But he took partial responsibility for that because when they decided he would go to law school they didn’t know about the support they would need from each other. Welp, I learned through his mistake.

I went home THAT NIGHT and talked to my husband again. I wanted to make sure he truly supported my efforts and understood what this meant for our lives for the next four years. We agreed that he would take over all the “responsibilities” I usually took care of around the house: dishes, laundry, paying the bills. I then “scheduled in” a date night every Friday night with him. I promised him I would have dinner with him every Friday night after which he was free to go out with the guys while I went back to my homework. For us, that worked! He never complained about me not doing the dishes (even though I may have complained when he didn’t do them) and he understood that when I turned down his offers to go out somewhere, it wasn’t him, it was law school. When I fell asleep on my books in the office, it wasn’t because I didn’t want to sleep with him, it was law school.

In addition to the support of your significant other, you will also need the support of your extended family. They need to know that when you don’t come to dinner, or you miss your nephews birthday party it’s not because you don’t want to go (although sometimes it is) but its because you are buried under 3 pounds books that are currently dominating your life. Let them know that you are going on a journey that requires your time and dedication and may not initially leave room for anything else. So, when you don’t return their texts or voicemails for days on end, it’s not them, its law school. My mom resorted to calling my husband to check up on me when she didn’t hear from me. Plus, they knew to leave me alone during finals… I was off the grid for two weeks straight.

Lastly, tell your friends you’re not ditching them. If they are your true friends, they will still be there when you get back. My girlfriends are so great, knowing that I couldn’t make a lot of the activities they all planned they always thought to invite me so I never felt left out or that I was losing touch with them. I even surprised them a few times by actually showing up! Bells, whistles, and all! To my knowledge they haven’t gotten tired of hearing “sorry, I can’t, I have homework.”

3. FINANCES

It sucks, but is has to be said. Law school is going to cost you more than some people’s houses plus the cars in the garage of those houses. D-E-B-T! Know this going into your decision that you will come out in debt because most, if not all, of your tuition and living expenses will be funded through government and private loans. This is also something to consider when deciding what law school to attend (I will elaborate on that decision later).

For us, it was a balancing test (oooh! that was your first taste of law school: the balancing test!). We wanted to maintain our lifestyle, get through school, and come out with as “little” amount of debt as possible (that was probably an oxymoron). For us, that meant I would continue to work so that the only loans I was taking would be for the cost of tuition. That would save us the end result of a huge student loan payment.

Knowing that you will be in debt after school gives you the advantage to plan ahead of time. If you can work for a few hours a week after your first year, use that money for living expenses so you are not paying interest on the groceries you buy or the gas in your car. If you can pick up a paying internship during the summer, use that for living expenses as well.

I was lucky in that my job offered tuition reimbursement. The downside was it was only $5,250 a year, but the upside was that was $5,250 a year I didn’t have to take out in student loans. Unfortunately, that was discontinued after my first semester. But incentives like that are things you should look for and factor into your financial calculations.

Also, scholarships can be both a blessing and a burden. Let me explain. Most law schools that offer student scholarships also place a condition on it that in order for you to remain eligible for the scholarship you have to maintain a certain GPA average. Each law school is required by the ABA (Rule 509-3) to disclose the number of conditional scholarships offered and their retention rates the following year so you have some indication of how your law school handles their scholarship offerings. Although it alleviates some of the initial financial burden you feel your first year, that feeling is replaced with the even heavier burden of making the grades you need in order to have that scholarship renewed. Don’t get me wrong, it is totally possible! I have been lucky enough to have my scholarship renewed every semester and it was even increased after my first year! But, when going over your financial plan, don’t count this as guaranteed money in the bank.

For a vast majority of people who decide to attend law school, the federal government is going to loan you the money to attend. You will be provided tuition and living expenses based on a variety of factors: financial need, enrollment status (full time vs. part time), and the type of federal loan you qualify for. You can visit studentloans.gov to get more information about the various types of loans that are available to you. My biggest piece of advice is take the “free money” first such as scholarships and work study money and to only take what you need of the federal loans because whatever “extra” money you take and just leave sitting in your bank account will be collecting interest. So plan ahead and know that after all is said and done, you will have to pay all of the loan money back with interest.

4. MOTIVATION

There will be times when you want to quit! Times when it gets too hard and you think you are just not going to cut it. It’s at times like that when you need to focus on the motivation that spurred you to go to law school and that will help carry you through school when times get tough (read: FINALS WEEK!). For me, that motivation was the degree itself. The degree I had always known I wanted and had now been given the opportunity to obtain. When I lacked sleep and didn’t think all of the espresso shots and coffee refills could get me through another day, I just reminded myself that this degree was going to open a door to a field I always wanted to be a part of. I knew I couldn’t practice law without getting through school. And I was constantly reminding myself that it would eventually be over and I would have accomplished my biggest goal thus far.

Keep your eye on whatever motivates you: changing your career, your family, putting yourself in a better financial position, status, whatever it is that you seek; keep your eye on that and don’t lose site when times get hard.

For me, these were our main considerations. But you should also consider other factors that will affect your decision to go to law school such as will your LSAT and GPA allow you to attend the school of your choice? Will there be a job market for lawyers when you graduate? Will relocation be an option for you to attend school or to accept a job? There is a lot that goes into making this big decision so take some time and consider your decision to attend law school.

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