This blog is 2 years old and I have not done a damn thing with it!
So . . . Happy Birthday, Mom’s Law Blog. Here’s to another year of trying to figure it all out.
This blog is 2 years old and I have not done a damn thing with it!
So . . . Happy Birthday, Mom’s Law Blog. Here’s to another year of trying to figure it all out.

Does anyone else Google “how to answer interview questions?” Or “how to make a good first impression in an interview?” I have. Even when I am not interviewing for a job. I do this because I have often times been on the other side of the table . . . the interviewer. I want to know which candidates are giving canned responses and what the internet is telling people will “land you the job of your dreams.”
In my past position, I interviewed numerous candidates to fill the vacancies for staff that held support functions in our office. Now, as an attorney, I have been asked to continue my role as a panel interviewer for incoming attorneys. I was blown away when they asked me to stay on in that role and I have enjoyed every minute of it.
Recently, I had the pleasure of sitting on an interview panel at my law school. During the part of the interview when the interviewer asks “so, do you have any questions for me?,” the last candidate of the day turned to me and asked:
“I heard you are an alum of this law school. Can you tell me the one thing that you learned in law school that makes you successful in your job?”
Without even thinking about it, I responded “protect your reputation, because you never know who will be sitting on the other side of the table.”
It’s more true than I think some new attorneys will ever have the ability to understand. I started to appreciate that fact more when I started interviewing other attorneys that I either knew of or heard of during law school.
I explained to the candidate that your reputation in the legal community starts in law school because you are sitting next to your future colleagues. People who you will work with for the rest of your career. How they know you in law school will be how they perceive you for the rest of the time you interact with them during your legal career.
I can think of two attorneys that I currently work with as opposing counsel. I know how they played fast and loose in law school and I know they are probably flying by the seat of their pants in the cases we have together. I can think of another currently unemployed attorney who reached out to me for a referral for a position in my office. I was very direct and explained to them that I did not know anything about their work ethic as they were rarely in class and failed to show up to our final group presentation. And for those reasons, I was not comfortable in making the referral. They probably cussed me out, deleted my email, and moved on to find the next person they could suck a referral out of. All I know is that I will never refer someone for a job in my office that I cannot personally see myself working alongside of.
So, to all of you thinking about going to law school, starting your 1L year, or even entering your 2L year, protect your reputation because you never know who will be across from you at that table when it comes time to interview for that job you really want.
“Probably not.” This is my response to the persistent question I have been asked now a trillion times. “Can I get free legal advice from you now?”
First, I am not being rude. I simply just can’t give every person I know free “legal advice.” Building a book of business should be treated just as such, a business. While there are the occasional free consultations to get the ball rolling on a new business relationship I can’t just sit down with every acquaintance who asks. Plus, any firm I work for will probably want my acquiantance as a client not just a free consultation.
Second, I just don’t know the answer. Apparently the outside world believes law students leave law school knowing everything there is to know about every area of law. Sorry folks, that’s just not the case. We leave knowing how to read a case, synthesize information, and think critically. We do not know about every area that concerns the law. If we did, don’t you think we’d need a little more schooling?
Lastly, although I can give any person the low down on most issues of criminal prosecution in my own state, I won’t. As every law student knows the answer is “it depends” because each fact situation is different. So when an acquaintance comes calling for a recent arrest on an alleged crime I will point them to the directory of lawyers who will be willing to take their case…for a fee.
Eight weeks have passed since I took the bar exam. As I mentioned before, I had a job to go back to. Some of the test takers had no job to go to and thus were stuck trying to determine how to kill time during the day. My biggest problem was what I would do to fill my evening hours.
For the past three years my evenings were filled with reading or studying. The past year added my maternal responsibilities to that list as well. Needless to say, the days were packed full of things I needed to do and not the things I wanted to do. With most of that behind me now (I guess my maternal responsibilities will never end, so I am told) people ask what I do with all of my “free time.” I found it very comical that compared to law school, having a husband, a child, and a full-time job equaled “free time.” But hey, I’ll take it. My evenings and weekends are mine again and here is how I have been filling my free time:
Reading for my own entertainment- There were so many books piling up on my night table and Kindle that I never had time to read while in law school. I have tackled a book a week and IT. FEELS. GREAT! There were some that became outdated such as What to Expect During Your Child’s First Year. Part of me is glad I missed the opportunity to read that one. Something tells me that if I were forewarned about some of the things Little Bit would surprise us with, I may have enrolled back in school for another degree to avoid them.
Reconnected with family and friends- I didn’t realize how much I missed my friends and family. All of them were very understanding of my absence from functions. But once I started attending more gatherings, I realized I missed the genuine laughter that I experience when I am with them. Add to that I get to see Little Bit play with her cousins and the children of some of my dear friends. I am glad I don’t have to miss that anymore.
Exercise! – Before law school started I challenged myself to run two half-marathons. Done! It was the best feeling completing those. I vowed that I would continue to run during law school as an outlet for all of the stress I would feel. Although I did well at first, as I took more classes, engaged in more associations, and took on more projects at work, something had to give. Unfortunately it was my exercise. Although I didn’t pack on much weight from the dreaded vending machines, I was not able to get right back to a good exercise routine after I gave birth nor after graduating since I had to go right into bar prep. As soon as I had a couple weeks to relax and de-stress from the huge accomplishment I had just achieved I got right back into the gym. I must say, I think cycling may be my new passion.
Job hunting- I have not hit this with the full force that others may have since I currently have a job in the legal field that I could obtain an attorney position if worse comes to worse. However, as bar results get closer I have started brushing up my resume, researching firms in the field I want to work, and have had the opportunity to take three meetings with different firms. But with no other extraordinary worries such as how I am going to pay my student loans or if I will have a job after all is said and done, job hunting has been a pretty stress free process so far. Hopefully my bar results prove favorable and I can ramp up on making the connections in the firms I want to be in.
Traveling- We missed out on so many vacation opportunities due to school and having a little one at home. We use to take annual vacations and some mini-vacations throughout the year. During law school, we only got one big trip to D.C. and New York in. Now that I have “free time,” we have a few trips planned and it was so nice not having to try to fit those in between school breaks, work requirements, and our parental responsibilities. Up next, California, Hawaii, Mexico, and a snow boarding trip of some sort.
Relaxing!- If nothing else, I like being able to jut relax with my little family on the weekends. Mr. Mister is stoked that he has his weekends free to make plans without having to arrange for a babysitter. I’m stoked that it’s currently patio weather were I live and I can enjoy a nice glass of Malbec sitting on our outdoor couch with no school books or study materials in front of me.
It’s the little things.
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